Men and desire

Men and desire

The idea that men can just have sex for the sake of sex and get enough out of it is a fallacy In 2016, a study published in the Journal of Sex Research surveyed straight men in long-term heterosexual relationships about what elicited their desire, and found that key...
Boarding school sets up intimacy disconnect

Boarding school sets up intimacy disconnect

All of the tools, none of the feelings you cannot make good decisions without emotional information, you cannot grow a flexible brain without good attachments, you cannot read facial signals if your heart is closed down, and you cannot see the big picture if your...
Beware the BTN’s

Beware the BTN’s

AKA “better than nothings”, tease us with finite fixes for infinite yearnings. They’re the dead-end relationships, the otherwise-perfect commitmentphobes, the people who’ll never be that Into us, the Friends who can’t be more. The Coras. Yet if BTNs served no...
You cannot reason with a verbally abusive partner

You cannot reason with a verbally abusive partner

The victim so badly wants to make sense of the behavior that he or she doesn’t put an end to it, instead continuing to search for explanations of what could have caused the abuser to treat him or her that way. The victim thinks that perhaps something about his or her...