Men and desire

Men and desire

The idea that men can just have sex for the sake of sex and get enough out of it is a fallacy In 2016, a study published in the Journal of Sex Research surveyed straight men in long-term heterosexual relationships about what elicited their desire, and found that key...
Beware the BTN’s

Beware the BTN’s

AKA “better than nothings”, tease us with finite fixes for infinite yearnings. They’re the dead-end relationships, the otherwise-perfect commitmentphobes, the people who’ll never be that Into us, the Friends who can’t be more. The Coras. Yet if BTNs served no...
You cannot reason with a verbally abusive partner

You cannot reason with a verbally abusive partner

The victim so badly wants to make sense of the behavior that he or she doesn’t put an end to it, instead continuing to search for explanations of what could have caused the abuser to treat him or her that way. The victim thinks that perhaps something about his or her...

At peace with the virus

This first world and beautiful video aimed as soothing, still hangs out with anxiety provoking and false dichotomies in “we must win” and “we cannot fail”. Failure is the best teacher when we learn from it. The seed of success is in every failure, and loss within...