Year One Him: When her voice rises, something in me goes underground. I don’t mean to leave—I’m still sitting here, aren’t I? But inside, I’m walking away from something that feels like fire. My father taught me this: when the heat comes, you...
When my grandmother refused to speak about the war, she didn’t realise she was passing down silence like silverware. Her daughter learned to lock certain rooms. I inherited the keys but not the knowledge of what doors they opened. This is how grief freezes across...
First, I suggest you read my couple’s story Repaired There you may find it’s not a straight line from dead relationship to growing together again. Life Happens! Few people can afford the six month commitment of time and money that the psychology today...
The space you inhabit as a couple is like a room. It is around you, in between you and beyond you. We easily forget to nurture our awareness of the space inside and outside of that room. As an exercise take a few deep calming breaths, and come to an awareness of the...
“One day when my mother is healed, she will finally be able to be a mother to me” or, “One day when I am good enough, mother will be here for me.” This is the dream forged in the heart of the parentified child, that her hard work will pay off one day and her mother...
Coaches ask questions to help one or both partners in a relationship to improve something – for example, improving communication, personal growth or helping them respond to needs better.Improvement will be judged on metrics decided on by the stakeholders. Therapy is...
