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Ziji is the experience of being completely and powerfully in the present
We might be giants
'I always had a repulsive sort of need to be something more than human. I felt very very puny as a human. I thought, "Fuck that. I want to be a superman." - David #Bowie Knowing you have so much potential and yet realising in your heart of hearts that it’s not...
Why relationships
Contrary to everything I have written on my couple therapy site, or maybe aligned with it’s darker notes, I don’t recommend marriage. Well not without first deep diving into how you are, and will become a difficult person to live with. Long term committed...
Shame
Shame based - after 50 years in the business I have come to the conclusion that almost any system of personal growth, which prescribes a formula for personal development can carry a sub-text of shame. For example, follow our rules and life will work out for you. Don’t...
Story and experience
One way of thinking about the difference between the story we tell ourselves about an experience, and the experience itself is to consider how the brain manages information.
Self Care
As long as you are a free standing adult, even if compromised by disability or chronic ill health, you cannot outsource care of your soul or the core of your self to anyone else